The following article is an interview with Jean Semelfort, the director of the Men’s Allied Voices for a Respectful & Inclusive Community (MAVRIC) Project, with questions concerning healthy vs. toxic masculinity, particularly on Princeton’s campus.
Unhappy Receiver: What do I do if I am receiving inappropriate, sexual messages from a classmate?
Dear Sexpert,
One of my classmates keeps on sending me inappropriate, sexual text messages that I don’t feel comfortable about. What should I do? I am worried that things would be really awkward between us if I confront them.
–Unhappy Receiver
Kegel Kurious: What are kegel exercises and how do I practice them?
Dear Sexpert,
I’ve been hearing some of my friends talk about doing Kegel exercises, but I’m not exactly sure what they are talking about. What is a Kegel? And how do I do one?
–Kegel Kurious
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Missing Out on the Big O: Why do I ejaculate without having an orgasm?
Dear Sexpert,
I am a sexually active homosexual male and I have never had an orgasm although I have ejaculated many times. My boyfriend has an orgasm almost every time we have sex, but I never do. He thinks it might be because I am stressed from taking six classes this semester and have trouble winding down. Is there something wrong with me?
–MissingOutOnTheBigO
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Hot and Bothered: Can I be allergic to semen?
Dear Sexpert,
I have had several sexual partners since I became sexually active in high school. I had never experienced discomfort during sex, but recently I noticed that when I have sex with my current boyfriend, wherever my skin comes into contact with his semen, it turns red and becomes irritated. After intercourse, my vagina is red and puffy too, not just my skin. We can’t use condoms because I have a severe latex allergy, but I am on birth control, so we aren’t worried about unplanned pregnancy. Could I be allergic to his semen too?
–HotAndBotheredDownThere
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The Real Girl: What if my boyfriend watches too much porn?
Dear Sexpert,
My boyfriend watches a lot of porn. A lot of porn. He watches porn every night before he falls asleep, even the nights that we have sex; he often wants to watch it to get in the mood before we have sex. It makes me uncomfortable and I have tried to talk to him about it, but he says I’m being controlling and just don’t understand. But I don’t feel like I can be sexually or emotionally intimate with someone who would rather watch porn than be with me.
–TheRealGirl
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Toilet Tormented: What do I do if I have a UTI?
Dear Sexpert,
Help! I think I have a UTI – when I woke up this morning and went to the bathroom, there was a burning sensation when I peed, and now I feel like I have to go to the bathroom constantly. What can I do to treat the UTI I have now and prevent getting one again in the future?
–Toilet Tormented
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Uncertain Sexter: Is it safe to send my partner nude pictures?
Dear Sexpert,
I started a relationship a few weeks ago and I am having a lot of fun with my partner. They’ve been asking me to send “sexy” pictures of myself and I have sent a few. But after reading some articles about sexting, I am not too sure how I feel. Should I be worried? I don’t know how to bring it up since my relationship is pretty new.
—Uncertain Sexter
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The Sexpert Interviews a Gynecologist
The following article is an interview with Margaret Nachtigall, MD, an obstetrician and gynecologist based in New York City. She is a Princeton alumna who was a biology major here. She went to medical school at NYU and did her residency in Obstetrics and Gynecology at NYU and then a fellowship at Yale in Reproductive Endocrinology. She was kind enough to answer some questions relevant to college students!
Expanding My Horizons: How do I tell my partner I’m ready for oral sex?
Dear Sexpert,
My relationship with my partner has become pretty serious and we’re ready to be more intimate with each other. While I’m interested in experimenting with oral sex, I’m still not ready to do more than that. How do I explain this to my partner without offending them?
—Expanding My Horizons
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Thrifty Diva: Should I start using menstrual cups?
Dear Sexpert,
I have been looking for feminine hygiene products that are more eco-friendly, and saw a bunch of posts online about using something called the Diva Cup to decrease my carbon footprint. Can you tell me how it works? Is it safe and cheap to use, and is it all that much better for the environment?
–Thrifty Diva
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Concerned (Birth) Controller: Is it better to get an IUD?
Dear Sexpert,
I am currently taking birth control because I am sexually active, and the pill has been my contraceptive of choice since I started. However, I have heard of a lot of women rushing to get IUDs instead because they are worried that a repeal of the ACA will make birth control too expensive. That way, they can charge the IUD to their insurance now and avoid purchasing new contraceptives for the next few years. Is this a good idea? Can I get an IUD at McCosh?
–Concerned (Birth) Controller
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Paranoid about Prevention: When should I start getting screenings?
Dear Sexpert,
I was hoping you could provide some clarity regarding reproductive health. Princeton is far from my hometown, so I don’t know how often I’ll be able to visit my gynecologist anymore… and I know I’m getting to the age where I should be getting things like pap smears and other screenings regularly. Can I get these at Princeton? And can you explain what should be on my radar?
–Paranoid about Prevention
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Au Naturel: What’s the safest way to remove pubic hair?
Dear Sexpert,
I normally let my pubic hair grow naturally and give it a trim every now and then. But lately, I’ve been thinking about getting it all removed. When I talked to my friends about it, we couldn’t decide on the best hair removal process. Is it better to wax or shave down there? Are there any drawbacks to removing the hair?
— Au Naturel
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